Friday, January 12, 2018

Searching For Something

Imagine this in your mind. You are out with one of your friends. You turn around to do something, and when you turn back you can't see them anywhere. You have no phone reception so you decide to go looking for them. Meanwhile they come back, can't find you, and wander off looking for you. 

Now think about this. In exactly the same way, you are searching for something which is searching for you. But you don't have all the facts yet, so you aren't looking in the right place and are making it difficult to be found. But what is it exactly you are searching for? 

Everything in life is elusive...hard to find. Take respect. Respect can be as elusive as the unicorn. I know even more about respect, or the lack thereof because I live in South Africa. How about romance? Romance is like a Rabbit being chased by a Fox. It's like the elusive, fake, and never attained reward which keeps us running and thinking in circles. It's like Jeans. I am willing to travel far just for that elusive, perfect pair of jeans! Searching feels like you are trying to find that window of wellbeing that opens up when you drink your way out of a hangover and aren't yet drunk all over again. It's like trying to keep that window open.

There's always something at the end you have to find to live a full life, but it's hard to find.

Sunday, December 24, 2017

Christmas 2017

Christmas is upon us once again! Another eventful year nearly behind me. Many lessons learnt that have added to me becoming a better, stronger and perhaps wiser, person. Accepting that some things are just not meant to be. Starting new ventures and looking forward to what the future of 2018 will bring. Fond memories to look back on. This year was a much better year than 2016 was. 2016 was a year filled with stress and tension and upheaval. I am relieved 2017 was kinder to me. It was a busy year. Too busy actually! My eyes opened to that fact towards the end of the year. It took some soul searching and a difficult decision to be made in terms of work. With all of that I have finally found balance again! Now it is time to unwind and in a few days time will be dipping my toes into the ocean and breathing in that fresh, salty air. What will 2018 bring? Who knows? Best is to live in the moment and take each day as it comes. Merry Christmas!


Tuesday, December 19, 2017

Closer

WARNING! If you have not heard this song...fasten your seatbelt💥...it's going to be a rough ride👀...pardon the pun!! 😜Regardless of the lyrics or the message that some seem to interpret from it, this is a great song...I love the bass!













Wednesday, December 13, 2017

Being Manipulated By Others

I have to vent! There is nothing that irritates me more than when I have to hear from someone, that they first need to check with their partner before they can proceed with something. Crikey Moses man. Can they not make a decision for themselves? This decision is about their life and what makes THEM happy. It is about what THEY want! Not what the other person wants. The other person does not LIVE their life. THEY live it! 

What is it with people? Just because they get married does not mean that they are glued to that person and that they now cannot make up their own frigging minds. And why must they seek approval first? For what? The partner does not control them! And if the person DOES control them, well that is also totally beyond me...I really just do not understand some people.

The same goes for when I hear that someone has just come out of a relationship and the reason is that oh, the parents did not think they were good enough for their son or daughter. It's like I almost do a double take and say - Excuse me, What? You are kidding right?! Seriously, it blows my mind that there are people that will allow themselves to be manipulated by others. The way I see it is if you are in love with someone, then that is your choice, your feelings and your happiness. Why would anyone even listen to someone else who says that the other person is not good enough for them if they really care for that particular person. How do those that say that even know? They are not in the relationship. They do not know what the situation is between the two people in love. Who are they to judge. It actually also comes down to control never mind manipulation! 

I just don't know. It does not make sense to me that people will allow other people to control their lives. The way I see it is that it is your life and you only get to live that life once. You are the captain of your ship and you must steer it to where you want to go. Yes, there are going to be stormy waters but you will learn how to navigate your way through those waves. You will learn to keep away from the sand banks and you will sail over calm waters to that island in the sun. As the captain, you are in charge, you are certainly not going to take instruction from the deck hand!! 

Ok. I have vented enough...time to hit the sack! It is 10:20pm and my bed is now calling me...

Friday, December 8, 2017

Love Is Priceless

The most expensive things in the world today are often the rarest. A few ounces of Beluga caviar will set you back thousands. A tiny diamond can cost as much as a house. We often say love is priceless,but does that mean it's in short supply too? Are we living through a global drought of kindness and compassion? In places it can seem scarce. But love is infinite. We just have to learn how to open our hearts fully and release this resource into the world.


Friday, December 1, 2017

Compromise

Interesting how the one reading leads from one to the other...When the love is strong all things can be worked out...I do hope that this full moon energy brings reconciliations. I have always said: Where there is great love there will always be miracles.



Letting go but still motivated...Indecision...If you count your blessings there is still something worth saving...there is something special...there's still love there for some reason...think twice before you react too quickly...there's something good left in the relationship...the love is still worth saving...


Thursday, November 30, 2017

Attitudes And Habits

We don't notice them, but our attitudes and habits have a lot in common. They skilfully work themselves, and mould themselves into our beings, so that we hardly notice that they've become a part of who we are. They are ingrained in our lives, affecting our personalities and lifestyles. We only really become aware of them when we try to change or give them up. That's when trying to give them up, that it becomes a challenge. This is when a shift in perspective is called for.